News Herald – Juliann Talkington
The beginning of the school year is a period of transition, so it is the perfect time for parents to make changes in how they interact with their kids. One of the biggest challenges parents face is helping their children transition from dependent infants to independent adults. The process takes time, constant effort, and many adjustments. Here are a few things parents can do to make the process easier.
Encourage healthy risks
Kids learn by trying new things and build confidence when they successfully handle challenging tasks. The key is to pick tasks that are age appropriate and to coach children as they learn.
Rescue less
Most young people do not develop the same life skills kids did 30 years ago, because adults take care of problems for them. Rather than doing things for their kids, parent should teach them how to handle tasks, conversations, and assignments on their own.
Provide genuine complements
Self-confidence is earned. When parents offer undeserved kudos, kids often develop problems with self-esteem because they realize the complements are not real. As a result, it is better to find things that a child does well and praise them for those things.
Don’t be afraid to disappoint
A child does not have to “love” their parents every minute. Kids will get over disappointment, but they won’t get over being spoiled. Tell them “no” and let them earn what they want and need.
Share mistakes
Kids shouldn’t operate in a vacuum. When adults share their mistakes or the mistake of others it helps young people understand the difference between good and bad choices.
Remember giftedness does not equal maturity
Even the brightest children get into trouble when they do not have the skills to navigate complicated social situations. As a result, it is important to add responsibility gradually rather than all at once.
Practice what you preach
Honesty and integrity are valued traits. Parents should do their best to be good examples and acknowledge mistakes when they make them.
Encourage balance
Few athletes and performers reach a level where they can make a living on the athletic field or stage. As a result, it is critical for kids to excel in the classroom if they want to find meaningful employment.
Creating a successful adult is challenging, but manageable, when parents focus on coaching and empowering rather than protecting and doing.